Have you ever heard yourself say “I’m lost without you”? It sounds romantic at first but when you come to think of it, it can mean that you may be too dependent on the person you love. You may have slowly changed everything around you to suit your partner’s needs. In the process you just might realize one day that you don’t know what you really want anymore.
Committing to someone doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to be a slave or a robot. You can fully commit to a relationship and still maintain your individuality and self worth. Here are some ways on how to fully commit without losing yourself.
This is me
Before you can fully love anyone, you have to like and love yourself first. I’m not saying that you should be vain or selfish. All I am saying is that you, above all, should know your needs and your wants. Preserve your sense of dignity by allowing yourself to keep doing the things that you love and make you happy.
We’re Different
No matter how compatible you are with your partner, understand that you are different. You don’t need to like the things he or she likes and vice versa. Never force your partner to do things that they are not comfortable with. Also, do not let your partner let you do things that you do not want to do.
Decision Making
When the time comes that you need to live together, decisions will always be shared. From the colors of the walls, the furniture, which side of bed each one should sleep on are issues that you both should need to talk about and work on together. Do not say “yes” to everything even if you feel like saying “no.”
Speak Up
Be honest with your partner. You may be afraid that things may end up in a fight so you always choose to keep quiet. But all couples argue and fight. That is part of the process of getting to know your differences and getting to know each other. Communication is an important key to expressing yourself as an individual.
Your thoughts and your decisions are part of who you truly are. If you keep agreeing to everything your partner says, one day you will find yourself wondering why you seem to be just following orders all the time. Do not allow yourself to turn into a zombie. Be yourself and let your partner know who you truly are by honest communication.
Personal Space
As a couple it is okay to be doing things together most of the time. But once and awhile you should give each other your personal space. Allow your partner to do things the he or she loves. Allow your partner to go out with friends sometimes without you.
Giving your partner this reasonable freedom shows that you trust him or her. In return your partner should allow you to do things that you love and also spend some time with your friends too. This way you both grown and mature as an individual even if you are committed to each other.
