I’m sure you’ve heard of the saying “Absence makes the heart grow fonder.” For people who are oceans apart from the one they love, this is very true. Certain sadness overcomes a love-bitten overseas worker and the longing for his or her sweetheart. Most of the time, the loneliness seems unbearable. If you find waiting for a text or email seems unbearable, imagine being in the time when letters had to be written, mailed and delivered by foot. It must have been a dreadful wait, and to finally hear from your one true love was like a lifetime of waiting.
Let’s face it, no matter how in love people are, when loneliness strikes that is when the weakness comes in. Many end up cheating because the temptation is stronger when the one you really want to be with is not physically available.
We are very fortunate to be living in this age where communication is readily available to anyone even if they are very far away from each other. You can still go for the conventional snail mail, but I don’t really see why you would choose that when global roaming is available, and your loved one is just one text or call away through your mobile phones. Of course, let us not forget to mention the internet which has revolutionized many ways on how people connect. You can now do video calls and have long conversations with someone across the ocean and have it as if he or she is right in front of you. You can also play and compete online with people from other countries.
Dating has also changed drastically as online dating sites have made meeting singles so much easier and less awkward than the conventional bar hopping adventure of the past. Now, people of all races can meet, chat and get to know each other without leaving the comforts of their home. You can also screen your prospects by simply browsing their profile pages. If you are smart and have a keen eye on detail, it is easy to spot the phonies from the real deal, when it comes to choosing dates online.
Meeting people and getting dates online is as easy as pie. But when you get involved with someone who lives miles away from you, and your only means of communication is the internet, deep inside there is that worry that the relationship might not succeed. Many say long distance relationships almost always never work. On the other hand, if you believe that your love for each other is strong enough and you are willing to fight for it, no one can tell you how things will turn out for you and your love. I believe that if you both love each other neither would want to give up and continue to make efforts to make things work between the two of you. There are several things you have to remember as you go through your virtual romance.
CONSISTENCY
Communication is the key to keeping your virtual romance alive. You both have to be consistent in your communication and have a regular schedule just for the two of you to spend time chatting alone. Have your special rules so fighting will be minimal since you both know how to expect. Set rules like…”if my line is busy or seem to be off line, leave a PM and I will reply ASAP.” Never leave the other hanging and waiting because this shows that you may now be uninterested in the person or may be wandering off with someone else. If you are supposed to be online at a certain time try your best to be there.
DREAM TOGETHER
In your talks, it is best to know where you two are going. Do you both have the same goals, which includes you two being together as husband and wife? What are your dreams for the future? Are they realistic and do your dreams compliment or work with your lover’s dreams? A clear picture of the future…your dream home and family perhaps will be your anchor as you both look forward to achieving those dreams.
RESPECT & HONESTY
The body has needs and being in a virtual romance, you are deprived of the actual intimacy that a regular romantic relationship has. Sexual urges and temptations to wander off with someone else will be very strong for sure. You both should acknowledge these needs and be honest of your feelings emotionally and physically. A sense of respect is in order to keep both man and woman chaste until they meet physically. Still there are couples who find ways to get virtually intimate through the internet. I guess you know what I mean.
Above all, since there is no actual physical contact to let your lover know how you feel, smother him or her with the words “I love you” and assure each other that this is true.