Every woman dreams of finding a good man to love and love her back, but before any girl goes on a search for her ideal man, let us first try to define what a “Good man” is. We as women have different standards and ideals in terms of looking for our ideal mate. The term a “Good man” can mean different things depending on the woman who seeks him.
What You Seek
Do you know what you truly want? Most importantly you need to know what you truly need from a man. Some women seek companionship. Some women seek out love and romance. Some women seek a long and lasting relationship. Some women seek men who are potentially husband and father material. Some women are looking for a man who can satisfy her in bed. Some women seek men who are successful in their career or can provide for her financially. Which one are you?
Your Expectations
Make a list of your expectations, and the things you would like your ideal man to be. This list will help you narrow down your potential guys to date. By looking at this list, you can also see if your expectations and your standards are realistic or not.
Where’s Prince Charming?
If you’ve seen the movie “Enchanted” they stress the importance of finding your one true love and that “True love’s kiss” is the most powerful thing in the world. But in the movie they also show that love does not just magically happen the moment you see the right one for you. It happens through time as you get to know and like each other better. All I am saying is that you should not be fixated on pursuing one person as your ideal mate. Mr. Right may just be nearby and you don’t even know it because you are out there somewhere else chasing who you think is your “Prince Charming.”
A Good Person
Basically before looking for a good mate, we should be looking for a good-natured person first. Any woman wants her man to treat her right, right? The term “Good” can relate to good breeding, good manners and good morals. You can observe how a man treats the people around him. A good man would generally be nice to everyone. He is the one who chooses to do the right thing when faced with conflict. He has respect for other people’s beliefs but is firm about his own beliefs as well.
Stereotypes
The stereotypical “good man” is first of all good looking. He has a great career and he drives a nice car. But remember, finding someone that fits this description does not assure you that you will be totally happy with him. Just like everybody else, nobody is perfect. You have to be able to take the good with the bad. Every guy has his flaws and unpleasant traits that you will soon discover as you get to know them better.
First Impressions
I’m sure you’ve heard the saying don’t judge a book by its cover. When meeting new people or going out on a date with someone for the first time, don’t go throwing judgments right away. First impressions can reveal a lot about a person. Some things can be a turn off to you right away. But if you take the time to look a little closer or spend some time to get to know a guy beyond the flaws you see, you might find that there is more than meets the eye. Many times we focus on the negative traits that we fail to see the good traits of the guys we date.
Happy Together
In spite all the criteria to determine a good man, an easy hint that you may have found a “good man” or the right one for you is if you find yourself happy in his company. I believe that every man has a “good man” in him. All he needs is to find the right woman who is good for him.
